shoot me

"OPPOsaurus WRX" (opposaurus)
04/15/2020 at 13:47 • Filed to: None

or give me a beer....now that I think of it, the beer would be much perferred. sit back kids for a story and do what the internet is best at, give me your opinion on how much of an asshole I am.

I woke up this morning to no power....again. It had been two days now. I had just gone food shopping so there was a fridge full of food for the next week or two. The kids have nothing to do, no where to go. I’m sick of life. I crawl out of bed and call to get an update on the power. maybe by midnight. fawk this shit.

This is where the real fun begins. I decide to get coffee and donuts for the family. I won’t mane the place, but it would be a place you would go if you had a donut and you would want to dunk it in something, maybe coffee. I order go to grab my wallet and “oh shit I dont have my wallet” I get to the window and ask if I can bring the stuff home, get my wallet and come back to pay. NO. ok can I leave my phone as collateral, bring the stuff home to the family and come back and pay and get my phone back? NO. frustrated I take off, go home get my wallet get back in line, order and get back to the window. The woman says she wont serve me. (in my head i told her to go fuck about 50 different rusty objects overed in covid) I dont even try to argue, I ask for the manager “I am the manager” why I came back I have money I have no power, i promised kids donuts and the wife coffee. Y ou flipped off the last person at the window and you were rude. I probably wasn’ t rude, but I sure did not flip them off and I told her she can go check the camera. She then gave me a lecture about how special she is for doing her jo b during a pandemic. I said sure that’ s great we should all be working together to get thru this. I have a job to go to right now and now i’m late and your just making everything worse by causing a big problem over a donut. She said i owe the staff an apology but can have my food. I sure as hell didn’ t apologize , thanked her for my food and left.

So what do you think? am I am asshole? I’m pretty sure I’m not but I’ve been wrong before.

thanks for your time, have a pretty car.

DISCUSSION (21)

Highlander-Datsuns are Forever > OPPOsaurus WRX
04/15/2020 at 14:03

You are not being an A-hole, sounds like the server is being a big A-hole. Fuck them and the horse they rode in on.

Brian McKay > OPPOsaurus WRX
04/15/2020 at 14:05

Keep a hundred dollars hidden in the vehicle so that if you don't have your wallet...

TheRealBicycleBuck > OPPOsaurus WRX
04/15/2020 at 14:14

If it’s a retail chain (it is), then they really don’t have any incentive to let you do something that seems reasonable but can be a real PITA on their end. Leave your phone? Great idea. Now the store may have brought in COVID because your phone is the dirtiest thing you carry around and they are liable for caring for your phone. If they drop it and break it, they will have to deal with a customer who’s blaming them for breaking his phone.

I wasn’t there, but I suspect an overworked and worried employee was dealing with a grumpy customer and may have exaggerated just how grumpy that customer really was. The manager was probably unreasonable in her response , but I can see where she’s coming from.

Perhaps a more genteel approach would have produced better results. Remember, this was your screw- up first and everything blossomed from there.

VincentMalamute-Kim > OPPOsaurus WRX
04/15/2020 at 14:17

Wow. Hard to say since I don’t know you, or the workers, and I wasn’t there. My assumption is that you must’ve done something to tick them off since usually retail bends over backwards to keep customers happy.

OTOH, it does sound like the manager is on edge with everything going on. And retail is always rough. But then it sounds like you’ve been on edge with everything in your life. And you believe you are on edge since you listed everything as a preamble.

Well...at least you got to vent.

Who is the Leader - 404 / Blog No Longer Available > OPPOsaurus WRX
04/15/2020 at 14:18

Maybe two people left their wallets? I really don’t know what to make of the situation but clearly both of you were under quite a bit of stress. I would have just apologized but the accusation of the middle finger is a bit much.

Cash Rewards > OPPOsaurus WRX
04/15/2020 at 14:21

As someone who once upon a time worked in and managed a coffee shop, unless you were a regular I saw everyday to the point I knew your order and name on sight, ain't no way you're getting food or coffee without cash or card. And no way I'm accepting the liability of your phone hanging around a busy shop in my responsibility. And add to the fact that you (random person, not opposaurus) may be infected and irresponsible about keeping to yourself, no way I'm taking your germ filled phone in my shop. So I gotta say, sucks, but I understand the shop's point there. How you handled it, I got no idea, but you tend to not be an asshole around here

farscythe - makin da cawfee! > OPPOsaurus WRX
04/15/2020 at 14:37

eh....i can understand the not taking collateral...as annoying as that is...after all they dont know if that shits yours.....but man...if somebody gave me an im special for working speech i would lose my shit right about now ...

i mean fuck right off with that shit..i have to work everyday to make fucking coffee machines...at least you’re doing something usefull....incidentally..you have one of ours in your store...and i know that fucker aint out of order like the sign on it says....yous just know damn well people are too fucking stupid to not cluster around the free coffee dispenser if they think it still works

stop giving me shit and let me pay for my shit before i decide to fucking lick you

Svend > OPPOsaurus WRX
04/15/2020 at 14:47

It’s definitely not you mate. You offered a compromise by offering your phone as collateral.

Maybe get Google Pay or something added to your phone to pay via contactless as a back up just in case.

I use mine from time to time and twice it has paid off as on those occasions I had forgotten my wallet.

Chariotoflove > OPPOsaurus WRX
04/15/2020 at 14:57

I don’t think you’re an a-hole. I would not take your phone collateral either, but that’s because it would be against policy, and there is nothing I can do with it. Now, if I were the manager and had the latitude , I would probably just say, “ here, take the donuts and coffee, man, come back as soon as you can.” But that’s certainly not something reasonable to expect.

Now, the way she talked to you is obnoxious and uncalled for. We need to be more patient and helpful in this time, not less.

nerd_racing > farscythe - makin da cawfee!
04/15/2020 at 15:23

“stop giving me shit and let me pay for my shit before i decide to fucking lick you”

I’m using this when people at work start being assholes!

Dr. Zoidberg - RIP Oppo > OPPOsaurus WRX
04/15/2020 at 15:27

I would never accept your phone as collateral. Expectation of payment at time of reception of products is not unreasonable, nor is their refusal to do otherwise. And if you actually came back and told them how they ruined your day regarding coffee and donuts, I gotta say... Fire up the CoffeeMate and make pancakes next time!

OPPOsaurus WRX > Dr. Zoidberg - RIP Oppo
04/15/2020 at 15:42

i didn;t try to argue the point, i went home got my money and came back, didnt say anything more until they told me to get lost. i think a big point you missed is that I had no power to fire up the coffee mate

OPPOsaurus WRX > Cash Rewards
04/15/2020 at 15:43

i wasnt mad at them but moreso the whole morning. i didn;t take it out on them s I really had no reason to be turned away

OPPOsaurus WRX > TheRealBicycleBuck
04/15/2020 at 15:45

i’m not mad that they didn;t take it as collatoral, i understand it...

at that p oint i was also the only person in line. when I came back I didn’ t start shit, i ordered, got to the wi ndow and they said get lost.

OPPOsaurus WRX > Highlander-Datsuns are Forever
04/15/2020 at 15:47

there you go, thats the answer I was looking for.

for Michigan > OPPOsaurus WRX
04/15/2020 at 15:54

When I worked in food service, we never would have taken collateral for food. I also would likely have been fired for refusing to serve a paying customer though.

I can sympathize with the Dunkin lady for being wary of you, but not for refusing you service and giving you a lecture. That was out of line.

The Compromiser > nerd_racing
04/15/2020 at 16:07

I threatened to lick the HR Managers phone today.

Dr. Zoidberg - RIP Oppo > OPPOsaurus WRX
04/15/2020 at 16:27

[snaps fingers] Oh riiiight, the power...

TheRealBicycleBuck > OPPOsaurus WRX
04/15/2020 at 16:36

I hear you. Sometimes we come across as a-holes when we’re really just frustrated with ourselves. I’ve been accused of it by my wife more than once when w hat I was really feeling and trying to express was exasperation. I get a certain tone (she says) and even though I’m not yelling at anyone (though I really, really want to), she interprets as me being an a-hole.

Manwich - now Keto-Friendly > OPPOsaurus WRX
04/15/2020 at 18:04

You’re not an A-Hole, but I would have done things a bit differently

“order go to grab my wallet and “oh shit I dont have my wallet” I get to the window and ask if I can bring the stuff home, get my wallet and come back to pay.”

At the point of discovering I had no wallet, I would have immediately gone home to grab my wallet and lined back up.

My daughter works at a grocery store and I hear the other side how customers these days are much more nuts than usual.

Cash Rewards > OPPOsaurus WRX
04/15/2020 at 18:49

Completely understand. I doubt you were anything more than understandably frustrated. And I had plenty of customers who were regularly complete assholes, and we didn’t turn them away. That’s just p etty and shitty.